Jennifer Lopez’s first husband Ojani Noa explained why he thought their marriage broke down

Jennifer Lopez’s first husband says he sympathizes with Ben Affleck as he made a damning claim about how their marriage ended.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck have been the talk of the celebrity world for a little while now due to their relationship struggles and subsequent divorce.

While many had suspected their relationship was on the rocks, it eventually came to light that J Lo had filed for for divorce.

Affleck was often accused of being in a bad mood when he and Lopez appeared before photographers – particularly one moment when he slammed a car door behind J.Lo after opening it for her.

Lopez’s first husband Ojani Noa said he ‘could see myself doing that too’.

J Lo is reportedly splitting from Ben Affleck after 2 years of marriage(Michael Buckner/Variety via Getty Images)

Recalling similar pressure of living out his relationship in the public eye, he told the Daily Mail: “We would have ­disagreements in the car and then 20 minutes later, we’d have to sit and pretend everything was fine.”

Noa met J.Lo when he was working as a waiter in Miami in 1997, while the star was filming Blood and Wine with Jack Nicholson and Michael Caine.

They married the following year, before divorcing 11 months later.

Noa said: “We started talking about marriage within months of seriously dating and I asked her to marry me about a year and a half after we met.

“I was the first, the pioneer. I was there at the beginning of her career supporting her, ­dealing with her anxieties and insecurities.”

Ojani wasn’t shy about tooting his own horn. He argued that he was ‘a really good husband’ because he believes in marriage and was ultimately left ‘heartbroken’ when the pair split.

He said: “I feel when she got what she wanted, I was no longer needed.

Ojani wasn’t shy about tooting his own horn as he reflected. He argued that he was ‘a really good husband’(Barry King/WireImage)

“I put a lot of time and effort into loving her. But when you’re with someone, you have to spend quality time with them and not think about being on camera.

Despite this pretty damning conclusion, he said he has no ill feelings towards the music star.

He also had a parting message for the music star amid her ongoing divorce from Affleck and claimed it was important for her to ‘stay single’ for a while.

He added: “If she meets someone new, maybe keep it private and not get ­married again.

“I would just say to Jen: you need to be yourself so you can find yourself.”