{"id":1272,"date":"2023-07-23T19:17:27","date_gmt":"2023-07-23T19:17:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/used82.com\/?p=1272"},"modified":"2023-07-23T19:17:27","modified_gmt":"2023-07-23T19:17:27","slug":"worried-mom-tells-smoker-mother-in-law-to-shower-and-change-clothes-before-touching-her-baby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/used82.com\/?p=1272","title":{"rendered":"Worried Mom Tells Smoker Mother-In-Law To Shower And Change Clothes Before Touching Her Baby"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s natural for parents to protect their children \u2013 regardless of whether the person they are protecting their kids from is a family member or not. Of course, most parents do not mean to offend anyone. While some people might not understand you, there\u2019s no reason to feel guilty because you only want what\u2019s best for your children at the end of the day. But how exactly does one deal with such instances if the person involved is part of the family?<\/p>\n

A woman who remained anonymous shared in a column for Slate\u2019s Care and Feeding back in 2019 how she dealt with her mother-in-law, who happens to be a heavy smoker.<\/p>\n

At that time, OP’s mother-in-law was planning to visit her after she gave birth. But she felt worried about the welfare of her child, who might catch thirdhand smoke during her visit.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not worried about her smoking in front of my child, but after researching thirdhand smoke, I am very concerned about her holding the baby after she has had a cigarette,\u201d she\u00a0said<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, she and her husband came up with an idea. \u201cMy husband and I have decided that after she smokes, she needs to shower and change her clothes before she can pick up the baby,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

Then again, she felt anxious knowing she might make her grandmother feel like she was being excluded from the family.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe don\u2019t want my mother-in-law to feel ostracized, and we don\u2019t want to hurt her feelings, but obviously, those are likely potential outcomes,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

So, she asked for tips on how to set boundaries without making her feel like they didn\u2019t want her there.<\/p>\n

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\u201cHow can we still be welcoming and let her know we are excited to have her around while still setting these boundaries? Also, how long should we remain this strict about the issue? How should we handle this when we are visiting my in-laws?\u201d she\u00a0asked<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But one user who responded to her post reassured her that she is within her rights as a mom to impose such rules. The user went on to stress the importance of making her mother-in-law feel welcomed and loved regardless of the situation.<\/p>\n

While her mother-in-law might eventually get hurt, the user said it might eventually lead to her mother-in-law re-evaluating her smoking decisions.<\/p>\n

\u201cHer hurt feelings may interfere with her ability to hear it, but that\u2019s fine. She can just deal with it. With any luck, this will spur her to take a second look at her relationship to smoking and maybe even cause her to let go of something that is clearly standing in the way of being with her grandbaby,\u201d the user stated.<\/p>\n

Different from secondhand smoke, where researchers have proven that it could cause many health problems, there needs to be more data about thirdhand smoke. However, Mayo Clinic\u00a0revealed<\/a>\u00a0that \u201cinfants and young children are at greater risk for exposure to thirdhand smoke than adults due to activities such as crawling and putting non-food items in their mouths. They also tend to spend more time indoors.\u201d<\/p>\n

A study\u00a0published<\/a>\u00a0by the National Library of Medicine National Center for Biotechnology titled “Guidance for the Clinical Management of Thirdhand Smoke Exposure in the Child Health Care Setting” revealed that \u201cthe only way to protect non-smoking household members from thirdhand smoke is for all household smokers to quit smoking completely.\u201d<\/p>\n

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